Most couples have expectations, conscious and unconscious about their relationship, but may not have many healthy skills for getting their expectations met. Often by the time couples seek help, huge wounds have occurred. With therapy, couples have the opportunity to look at underlying patterns of conflict and unresolved problems, as well as being able to identify and move beyond the wall of fear and defensiveness. Couples are the experts in their own relationship and are able to decide what needs to change in their partnership.
My work with couples involves helping you to create a plan leading to a secure connection.; I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the most empirically validated and widely accepted model of couple’s therapy. Relationships often develop negative or destructive patterns which inhibit connection, and EFT reveals these dynamics leading to greater insight and understanding. Building on this, the goal is to discover the positive patterns which lead to deeper intimacy and connection we all desire.
Couples may find couples therapy helpful if they cannot find resolution and fight about the same things repeatedly. Couples often feel disconnected and are uncertain as to how to get the excitement back; or they may just want to strengthen their connection. Couples may have experienced a major hurt or betrayal, such as infidelity or pornography addiction, and need a safe place free of judgment to work toward repairing the relationship.
